Tensions have never run higher when it comes to contentious relations between divorced parents with joint custody because many are now arguing about where the children would be most safe in order to ensure their safety.
While the one parent may insist the children should remain with him or her while the country waits out the dangers of Covid-19, that may prove to be narrow thinking because it is possible that the residence where the children live most often could be the home that leaves them most susceptible to contracting or transmitting the disease.
The fact is that many courts are simply shutting down and custody fights may start escalating with little or no court intervention.
Here are 5 tips to help parents weather this unprecedented storm.
Tip #1 - Ask For Help
If you cannot agree on a new temporary custody arrangement, seek help from your attorney, therapist, or trusted advisor. The courts may not be available for a significant amount of time.
Tip #2 - Remember What's Really Important
Take a breath and remember that what's best for your children must be your number one priority.
Tip #3 - Be Practical
Be practical in your decision-making. For example, if your children's father lives alone where he can easily isolate your children from exposure to others, consider whether it might be reasonable to agree to leave the children in the care of the father while the virus runs its course?
Tip #4 - Facilitate Communication
Make sure your children are not deprived of communication with the other parent. Today we have innumerable social media platforms - Facebook, Facetime, Zoom, Skype, group texts, etc. This is a good way for a “self-distancing” parent to keep in touch with their children.
Tip #5 - Be The Adult
Both parents need to create a peaceful environment in front of your children. The current situation is stressful enough without adding more tension.